Delayed Gratification needs to be re-taught!
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In todays fast paced world there is a need for mankind to once again pay attention to a principle of success that is often overlooked and misunderstood. We want everything yesterday rather than today or tomorrow. We have slipped into the mind set of wanting things before we save for them. This over all mindset has created a huge burden on society. We are buying things on credit without thought. We look for immediate success from our business efforts, and if something does not work immediately we jump from one program to another, never getting the results possible from consistent effort.
The solution to this global mess, is much simpler than you may think. We need to once again plug into the principle of delayed gratification. Much like growing a garden. First the garden plot must be chosen so the right amount of sunlight will shine on the plants. The the soil has to be prepared for planting, the seeds carefully planted in the manner required for the type of seed. The proper amount of water must be given along with some basic fertilizer to feed the tiny seeds as they germinate and grow into healthy plants. Weeds must be kept under control and then we wait. Every crop takes time before we can harvest. Some plants grow quickly and we can harvest in just a few weeks or months where others, such as the Teak Tree, take 75 years or more before they can harvested.
Growing relationships for love or for business, gaining personal knowledge and skills as well as building your business venture, all follow the same principle. We have to take into account all the same steps as planting a garden.
For the purpose of the rest of this article lets look at just your business.
First we need to choose our garden plot. Your garden plot will be where you will place your marketing efforts to develop your business. Some of your plot will be on line communities and some may also have off line areas to market to build your business.
As with planting a garden, one has to be careful not to have too many garden plots to manage. If you spread your activities to too many places, the weeds will crowd out your activities. There simply is only so many hours in a day and when the weeds start growing and you have no time, your business wont grow but the weeds will.
Second we need to prepare the soil. Develop both long term and short term action steps that will start your business growth.
Third we now kick in advertising and marketing actions. Pay close attention to the results and gradually change your marketing strategies when needed. Learn better ad writing skills. Learn to use more technology where and when it fits your business and your overall plan. This is the fertilization to your garden.
Fourth we need to stop spending time where results are not bringing you business growth. This may be hard, as it is so easy to play and do the things we enjoy doing. However if those actions do not add to your business growth they are wasting time and weeds are sure to choke out your business growth. This is the time to pull weed.
Fifth - Water and fertilize as needed. Advertise, promote and explore new business generating tools. Be careful though, you do not want to spread yourself to thin and have too many activities on your plate. If you get so busy doing, the weeds and harmful insects will ruin your harvest, even though your garden may be growing nicely. Care and attention needs to ALWAYS be part of the process right up through harvest.
Sixth - Wait. Watch. Monitor. This is a time to slow down and manage a little. Tighten up your advertising costs, both in time and money. Train staff and associates, hire more when needed. Just remember, top heavy management always makes for less effective actions but too little management will result in crop failure.
Seventh - Begin the harvest process. Believe it or not, here danger is lurking. Some times we have such a huge return from our business that we think we hit the jack pot and we spend our harvested returns without putting away for next years bad weather or crop failures. Also, as we harvest, we need to realize that harvest is the time to begin preparing the soil for next years crop. The world is in a constant state of change, and thus the type of crop we harvested and profited from this year may not be marketable next year. Plus if we ruin the garden plot during harvest, next year will be a total flop.
All this takes time and effort. We must pay attention to the fact that gratification for a bountiful harvest takes time. There is always a delay between the idea, and actually living the dream. It is impossible to achieve instant gratification as is clearly seen from the seven steps above. We need to get back to the roots of life and practice the art of delayed gratification. No more spending before we save, no more program hopping and stop the freebie mentality. The attitude of "I want it all now for nothing" has to stop.
Delayed gratification is the way life is!
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Neil Sperling
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Hey Niel,
Great article my frien,
Shalom,
Peter
These are powerful principles which can be applied to any area of our lives. Well organized information, which should be reviewed often.
Great Job!
tMDg
LdsNana-AskMormon
Nice hub and nice directions on reacquainting ourselves with delayed gratification. I recently heard about a study of kids who were offered 1 cookie immediately or 2 if they waited 30 minutes. Those who waited were more successful in life overall. But, it's never too late to apply these lessons and techniques, is it? Look forward to reading more from you.
Excellent garden metaphor. Our ancestors, going back many thousands of years, would never have spawned us all if they had been looking for a quick fix. They scouted out the hunting grounds, they made their hunting tools with regard for tradition and excellence, they learned to follow the seasons and to plant the foods to sustain themselves, even though the waiting time for these foods spanned another season.
No Mickey Dees for them.
Your metaphor begs the question, what are our children growing?
Looking forward to reading more and more of your hubs.
Regards, S.
This isn't at all what I was expecting. This is an actual plan. And it's very well written. I'm impressed. And you have a new fan.
This is a good reminder for me to focus on business goals. I have a 20 year successful career as a real estate appraiser. The downturn in this economy has turned out to be a blessing as I have had time to pursue affiliate marketing, but I am like a kid in a candy store. Thank you for reminding me to wisely use my time and resources.
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Delayed gratification and not going out on a limb with credit card debt, either as individuals or as governments, would certainly be good advice going forward. The way you applied it towards business principles was brilliant.
Thanks for becoming my fan and now you have another.
Wonderfully written and so true Neil! My kind of metaphor - beautiful. Can I add that when we see life as a fulfilling journey rather than a destination, every step of the process can be gratifying?
That in no way suggests your wisdom is invalid. I used to not understand why anyone would go on vacation on credit - how unfulfilling to have to work to pay for a good time long ago. But then, my car is on credit and I've been enjoying driving it for years... hmmm... :)
Great Hub on delayed gratification. Agree totally that the world needs to re-learn it - so many of the little kids I know are just given everything they want and scream if they don't get things immediately - how are they going to cope when they are older and there is something they really can't have?
I agree wholeheartedly! I'm going to 'fan' you, as it looks like theres even more here I'd like to check out later on. Please stop by and check out my Hub if you can, I'm new and don't know anyone!
yes yes yes !!! fantastic hub ! people want everything right now without being prepared to work for it ... however ... being at university has taught me that expecting things now is no good .. i need to work hard and not forget to play hard to eventually lead the life i have always wanted :) xxx
I really like the garden metaphor and it is a great reminder of the basic, yet essential principles and outline of a successful business.
I like how it's written as well, and the positive title really pulled me in!
Soooooo true!
It is all just good common sense! We have been so had - and still don't know it. The magic pill mentality is what we have. It has destroyed our health, wealth, environment, and everything else.
Thanks for this reminder to understand what true gratification really is! And the results that are very possible.
I love this hub. I especially like the idea of delayed gratification. That makes sense across so many human endeavours. Thanks for a great Hub, and solid advice!
Neil Sperling,
Great hub!
I agree self gratification needs to be retaught.
You have given some great suggestions! Implementing a plan
along with care, concern, patience and self control is so much better. Thank you for sharing!
Blessings
I agree! Delayed gratification needs to be taught. No one want to work or study. it seems. - Carol
Hi thanks for becoming my fan, and I totally agree with what you said about everything being rushed these days. I do believe people want something for nothing, and we have forgotten how to plan and work, instead of just grabbing it. I was always taught by my mother that if you could'nt afford it then go without it! lol Nell
Delayed gratification is the only way we were able to move out into the country onto 10 acres and build our dream home. We had just the shell of the house built professionally then, as we could pay for it in cash, we added things like electricity, interior walls, wood stove heater, a/c after 5 yrs. Now we have sweat equity. Hard to do but so worth it. Compared to averages our home costs us about half of what most people pay monthly.
Your analogy to gardening is easy to follow and well written. We all need to wait for the fruit to ripen before picking it. Thanks for writing out clear practices that can be applied and taught to our children.
Kind regards, PegCole17
Liked how you applied this principal to Business! Shared this hub-page with a friend. Read your profile, congratulations!! It is encouraging to see a Father Daughter relationship getting restored:) Thank you!!
You are absolutely right! INstant gratification is at the root of many issues- personal and social. We live in an instant technology age and we expect everything to be instant and gratifying. Great hub!!!!
Neil,
Good HUB. Very true principal. Delayed gritification nearly allways brings greater gratification.
What an interesting hub, enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing!
I didn't even need to read this hub to know I'd agree with you 100%!! I did, though, and wasn't disappointed. We move so fast nowadays that delayed satisfaction truly is an almost archaic ideal. There is so much to be gained by being the turtle rather than the hare but so many grossly overlook this! Thank you!
awesome hub, i like the way you use comparisons to gardening, specially since i absolutely hate gardening haha but its very true, and easy to envision this technique to work ethics and efforts.
Excellent information and very helpful :)
I completely agree with a lot of what is said here. We all want things too quickly and that is where it goes wrong!
The internet age has spoiled us. Everything is instant. You can even order groceries online and have them delivered by the time you're ready to start dinner. Great post!
Nice hub Neil, sounds like you learn a lot from the big guys in the personal development area, the garden example is one of my favorites, but my kids are getting sick of me telling them the story. It really is the way life works, and yes, everything is in the state of change, so why does everyone fight change if it is inevitable? if we're not changing, we're not growing :0)
Very well written and not to mention thought provoking.You have provided us with a simple plan;thank you for sharing. I voted this up and useful and have also bookmarked it
Seven tips to make a plan work - wonderful! You organized and laid it all out so easily. Seems you live your own lesson...I need to share this with a few more people...
Thanks!
Well said Neil - and thanks for all your comments!
Fun and interesting way of re-learning delayed gratification. Thank you for another wonderful Hub about patience and hard work when nurturing a business.
Neil Sperling: Thank you for such a readable, user-friendly hub on the organizing, planning, prioritizing and waiting which explain the success of deliberately delayed gratification, quite frankly as much personal as professional.
Voted up, and all other categories also,
Derdriu
I now play in my mind this metaphor of a garden with my relationships with people around me. Very embarrassing for me not to know about delayed gratification! I'm used to wanting instant results of every good deeds I make, although not in a loud way. I know it's wrong but I can't entirely control that feeling. Wow! I'm patient in nurturing my plants to grow but not with people? Haha, Neil, you got me on the spot! Thank you!
Great hub. You are so right, so many of our problems could be solved if we could all slow down and realize that work takes some time to come to fruition. Voted up!









































SweetiePie Level 6 Commenter 3 years ago
This article teaches everyone some wonderful insights. Thank you for sharing!